There is much insight dedicated to the topic of forgiveness that has been passed down for centuries. There is a particular sequence of words, however, that seems to hold volumes of raw, powerful, truth: “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” These words, spoken by Buddha, are meant to penetrate the issue and generate thought. It's a quote that makes you think, and in return, gives you that “Ah ha!” moment.
We live in a society of rules and laws, but there are some laws of nature that simply cannot be broken. They are often referred to as universal laws, one of which we are all familiar - whatever energy you send out you get back tenfold, or a more commonly used cliché, “What goes around, comes around.” This is the law of Karma.
When we hold a grudge against someone it may end up harming them, but it most certainly harms us more; and in more than one way. Not only is it harmful emotionally and spiritually, but over time, it can make you physically ill. Giving power to such negative feelings is exhausting.
It seems that people often struggle with forgiving when there is a lack of understanding, a lack of compassion. There is a very profound lesson on forgiveness and compassion from the teachings of Master Choa Kok Sui.
In this lesson Master Choa Kok Sui brings to attention the law of Karma. To understand karma, you recognize that you reap what you sow, quite literally. When you act out of anger or hatred, you create negative (or 'bad') karma for yourself, and when you act out of love and compassion, you create positive (or ‘good’) karma for yourself. Kind of like a boomerang - when you send out anger and hatred, you are creating energy for it to be sent back to you.
On an energetic level, when something 'bad' happens to you, it’s because of the negative karma you created in the past, whether it is the near past or a distant past; it can be viewed as a sort of “paying off a debt.” And when someone wrongs you, not only are they helping you work off some off your 'bad' karma, but they are also creating their own karma in the process.
When we view it from this perspective it may be possible to move towards feelings of compassion or even gratitude. We can begin to view these challenges, or 'bad' karma as a lesson or an opportunity for change & growth.
Moving towards compassion doesn't mean that you have to like what happened. But it will require accepting what has happened and finding the good in it. Working this process may be difficult at first, but with practice it will bring you inner peace, health and happiness.